tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.comments2013-06-03T20:07:48.401-04:00A Moveable Feastbetsy_diamondhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07040406822791775173noreply@blogger.comBlogger45125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-62413780227077962562013-05-26T03:50:03.353-04:002013-05-26T03:50:03.353-04:00Hi, I love your writing. Thanks for sharing this w...Hi, I love your writing. Thanks for sharing this with the world. Not that many people will come out in defense of premarital sex. Most blog I find on this issue is against Premarital sex. Please check out my blog. <br /><br />www.cpsexministry.wordpress.comServant of Jesus Christhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03942666017474985024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-29018607613398698622013-04-06T10:23:52.916-04:002013-04-06T10:23:52.916-04:00That says it pretty well Betsy! I also believe giv...That says it pretty well Betsy! I also believe giving praise and thanks to kids for doing their best is an enormous emotional leg up. It provides an environment they feel safe and accepted in, no matter what any one else in the world might project to them about their efforts. Plus, we have amazing genius children, so that makes praising their accomplishments easy. Beucephalushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14681660546471338741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-87473678553367673542013-04-04T20:10:22.279-04:002013-04-04T20:10:22.279-04:00Thank goodness that Haven and Cia have such a &quo...Thank goodness that Haven and Cia have such a "bad mom." I used to call myself a dinosaur (member of an extinct species) because my approach to parenting was antithetical to the current fads of my generation. Keep listening to your heart, your own happy, healthy, confident heart. Oh, and THANK YOU for doing such a great job of mothering my grandchildren!! I see your effort, and know what it costs you, and I appreciate that it's not easy but you're doing it anyway, for the sake of real love. Deb Burgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09159772299084523685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-39163666649076930362012-11-13T23:32:45.864-05:002012-11-13T23:32:45.864-05:00Betsy, you have said it all so beautifully. I, too...Betsy, you have said it all so beautifully. I, too, loved being pregnant all those many years ago. I felt my own power and reveled in it.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14922096134264405319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-36242230929509710332012-10-17T20:37:35.152-04:002012-10-17T20:37:35.152-04:00in and out is good, but i always liked hot 'n ...in and out is good, but i always liked hot 'n now better. i'm really glad you are happy with the new place. walking distance to sushi goes a long way to making one feel at home. Beucephalushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14681660546471338741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-25861190139081693912012-10-17T20:04:28.770-04:002012-10-17T20:04:28.770-04:00Yay!!!!!Yay!!!!!Deb Burgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09159772299084523685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-89302263464564299902012-08-30T14:23:15.114-04:002012-08-30T14:23:15.114-04:00You. are. a. rock. star.
And I adore you.
xoYou. are. a. rock. star.<br />And I adore you.<br />xoGabi Dickinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10047410746695473845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-32983144941178101582012-06-02T11:51:55.841-04:002012-06-02T11:51:55.841-04:00I'm so glad you are getting to revel in this ...I'm so glad you are getting to revel in this process. Your eloquence serves to illustrate how terrifying beautiful rainbows can be.Darkblue0729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-47001903335922903572012-05-22T18:49:41.810-04:002012-05-22T18:49:41.810-04:00Finally following you...so glad to read the words ...Finally following you...so glad to read the words of your heart, once more, my friend. Your process is beautiful.becomingwhoiamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03158111293148313559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-30675293165522352262012-05-22T17:12:15.658-04:002012-05-22T17:12:15.658-04:00I had to learn the same lesson, my Dear, and it...I had to learn the same lesson, my Dear, and it's not an easy one. I so admire your courage and honesty in embracing it!Deb Burgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09159772299084523685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-35491376420502576592012-02-23T08:05:23.904-05:002012-02-23T08:05:23.904-05:00This is beautiful and I am so proud of you for fee...This is beautiful and I am so proud of you for feeling enough to spill this.Gabi Dickinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10047410746695473845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-68138456721518740912012-02-22T14:29:39.706-05:002012-02-22T14:29:39.706-05:00i'm imagining that i had the money to fly to y...i'm imagining that i had the money to fly to you and wrap my arms around you instead. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxoGabi Dickinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10047410746695473845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-67303908734240104702012-02-22T08:46:59.106-05:002012-02-22T08:46:59.106-05:00I'm so proud of you for having the courage to ...I'm so proud of you for having the courage to say it out loud, and to ask for help. I've sat here for nearly 5 minutes looking at the screen, knowing there's nothing I can say, because I've been where you are, and there is really nothing to say..... except that up or down, strong or weak, I love you. I know you'll get through this tunnel, even though it's a dark place.Deb Burgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09159772299084523685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-84196961664372611732012-02-20T00:58:06.126-05:002012-02-20T00:58:06.126-05:00This is an incredibly powerful post.
I am so deepl...This is an incredibly powerful post.<br />I am so deeply sorry for your loss.<br />And yes, that baby is honored here.<br />Love from,<br />GretaGretahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01487259102833192940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-38828595011370556622012-02-20T00:54:33.616-05:002012-02-20T00:54:33.616-05:00Betsy, I am new to your blog here, but responding ...Betsy, I am new to your blog here, but responding to the comment you left on mine.<br />I feel your loss.<br />And yes, you will always go on, because that is what we do.<br />But you are also a mother, and that baby's mother, so you will always remember that baby.<br />And that is good.<br />Know you are not ever alone.<br />There is a whole crowd of women who stand alongside you in this.<br />Sending blessings.<br />Love from,<br />GretaGretahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01487259102833192940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-43520185487720099992012-01-23T00:04:16.480-05:002012-01-23T00:04:16.480-05:00I'm so sorry to hear that this happened to you...I'm so sorry to hear that this happened to you and Tony, Betsy. I can only imagine the pain of losing someone you never got to know. <3 I know some things are better shared in real life/non-blog land, but know that you're loved all the way here in California.MaryEllennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-17781619083564541852012-01-11T00:32:35.847-05:002012-01-11T00:32:35.847-05:00I empathize! When y'all were all small, I was...I empathize! When y'all were all small, I was in a similar position.... and I think now you probably 'get' those times when I felt (perhaps even said) that there was a distinct possibility that if gypsies showed up at the moment, you all could be sold to the circus. Or I could run away to the circus. That in spite of the fact that I, too, chose the career of mothering/homemaking/wifing, that I also deeply believed it was best for me.... and that I loved that choice, my family and my life with a passion. But as you say, some seasons (like late November drear or dirty snow of early March) just suck.<br /><br />Hugs and feelings of empathy from here...... I know you'll regularly find your balance, lose it again, and then re-find it!Deb Burgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09159772299084523685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-80994832000294229992011-09-23T20:11:44.331-04:002011-09-23T20:11:44.331-04:00i wrote a post almost two years ago about troy dav...i wrote a post almost two years ago about troy davis, and posted the dos passos poem in it, and at that point i really did think it was going to end differently. so, you're welcome/thanks for the compliment, but i really wish it was under different circumstances. sadly, we are still two nations.betsy_diamondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07040406822791775173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-38914921525350388642011-09-23T11:45:09.062-04:002011-09-23T11:45:09.062-04:00I stumbled across your blog while hunting for dos ...I stumbled across your blog while hunting for dos passos's "all right we are two nations" quote. You rock. Thank you for writing this.day of honeyhttp://anniaciezadlo.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-14719991047393999952011-08-30T04:02:08.101-04:002011-08-30T04:02:08.101-04:00Great piece. Thanks for writing. As a formerly &...Great piece. Thanks for writing. As a formerly "religious" 20 year old, I am grateful to hear this point of view so well expressed and so full of love. And what is more, you did it without bigoting and bashing on other viewpoints. Thank you so much.<br /><br />-GAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-21909828680880451312011-08-01T16:49:37.894-04:002011-08-01T16:49:37.894-04:00I wish I could eat at that dining table with you.....I wish I could eat at that dining table with you...also Haven's room makes me smile. So proud to have a twin who doesn't buy into materialism!gabshttp://www.andthenloveon.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-3883972966069577312011-07-22T12:05:01.422-04:002011-07-22T12:05:01.422-04:00Your children would be right at home in Ireland, w...Your children would be right at home in Ireland, where there is not a cultural difference between "grown up" words and "kiddy" words. One of the things I liked best about being there was the natural and honest flow of both "positive" and "negative" emotional content. The recognition that certain words express anger; certain words express delight, without moralizing about the specific words. <br />I so agree that it's better to "cuss" when the toe is stubbed and refrain from name calling, than to spend a whole childhood working out the "acceptable" ways to assassinate the characters of playmates... which is what so often happens.<br /><br />Haven can cuss around her Nana, as long as she doesn't cuss "at" Nana!Deb Burgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09159772299084523685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-46102800073377614582011-07-22T11:56:42.510-04:002011-07-22T11:56:42.510-04:00You Go, Woman! We've started up the "25 ...You Go, Woman! We've started up the "25 out the door" game again-- each week, 25 items must leave the premises, not to be replaced. This week 20 books went to the used book sale, and 5 boxes of junk went out of the garage. Last week, a bag of 25 unused clothing items. Making it an ongoing game helps us to not quit, and to keep us motivated.Deb Burgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09159772299084523685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-51072356997714241752011-07-01T00:18:15.665-04:002011-07-01T00:18:15.665-04:00i was hoping some other parents would share their ...i was hoping some other parents would share their opinions. i appreciate you disagreeing with me and making me think more about my opinions. my comments about upsetting parents were mostly because where i live right now the other moms don't talk to me because i have tattoos and weird hair and i don't wear polo shirts, so one more reason for them to dislike me wouldn't matter to me. but that's not to say that i totally don't care about how other people choose to raise their kids. i do respect that others have different views. i definitely won't encourage my kids to swear. my intent is not that they run around the playground cussing like sailors and teaching words to other kids. getting other kids in trouble would fall under the category of words doing damage, which is why i'll have to work hard to teach about using words and actions that are appropriate for the situation. i don't swear at the grocery store, and they will be taught not to swear on the playground. i'm fine with my kids swearing, but not at times and places where it will offend and hurt people. but at the same time, i think it would be hypocritical of me to expect them to speak differently than what i expect of myself when at home. i don't see the way that i speak as immoral, so i don't see the point in pretending i feel that way in front of my kid. i really don't understand what is different, morally, between "shit" and "shoot". if i thought it was wrong to say one of them, i wouldn't say the other one either. if i thought it was wrong to say "damn" then i would have to also think it was wrong to say "darn" because it is said with the same intent and in the same context. i guess it boils down to one's definition of "unwholesome". my personal belief is that unwholesomeness is based on intent. i won't encourage swearing, but i'm not going to be upset when it happens.betsy_diamondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07040406822791775173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4481371186139732722.post-18615336755351804342011-06-30T12:38:04.629-04:002011-06-30T12:38:04.629-04:00hmmmm.....I don't agree Betsy. Don't you t...hmmmm.....I don't agree Betsy. Don't you think it's unfair to allow your child to curse in the presence of other children? I for one do not share your view that "words and words" and see a whole lot of difference between the f word and "darn it." I don't think it's cute or funny at all to hear young children swearing. I would bring it back to not allowing unwholesome talk to come out of your mouth...and yes that goes well beyond curse words and more into teaching your child to speak kindly and respectfully, as well as demonstrating it yourself. Which half this blog sounds like what you are aiming for, yet the other half is in great contradiction to itself.Amynoreply@blogger.com